Ambivert: both extrovert and introvert. How is this possible?

Extraversion and introversion

  • you have a small group of close friends;
  • you are thoughtful;
  • you get energy from being alone;
  • you tend to hide your emotions;
  • you are reserved in large groups or among strangers;
  • you feel drained by people;
  • you learn well through observation.
  • Enjoy your being out in the community;
  • draw attention to yourself;
  • get energy from interacting with others;
  • make friends with many people;
  • work for the outside world;
  • prefer to talk rather than write.

Who is an ambivert?

  • I can do tasks alone/alone or in a group. I don’t have a particular preference.
  • Social contact doesn’t make me uncomfortable, but I get tired of interacting with people.
  • Being the center of attention is fun, but I wouldn’t say I like it to last.
  • Some people think I’m quiet/silent, and others think I’m very outgoing/sociable.
  • I don’t always need to move, but too much free time makes me bored.
  • I can get bogged down in my thoughts as quickly as I can get bogged down in conversation.
  • Small talk doesn’t make me uncomfortable, but it gets boring.
  • When it comes to trusting other people, sometimes I am skeptical, and sometimes I am immediately ready/ready to bond.
  • If I spend too much time alone, I get bored, but too much time with other people makes me feel exhausted

How to become an ambivert?

  • Consider friendship in depth, but don’t lock yourself into a narrow circle. You shouldn’t be superficial and collect a collection of acquaintances, but you also need to expand your boundaries and let more people in.
  • Develop empathy in yourself. An ambivert desperately needs to feel people take a particular approach in communication with them and understand their requests.
  • Learn to choose a comfortable solution for themselves. First of all, for this, it is necessary to learn to understand oneself and to know one’s priorities. And then, starting from your own needs, choose a way of behavior.
  • Pay attention to your appearance. It is worth bringing your appearance to a more standard image — not to stand out but not to merge with the gray wall. Then communication with people will be more accessible.
  • Look positively into the future based on reality. It has been proved that extroverts are more optimistic about the future than introverts, but it can lead them to pipe dreams. Therefore, strategic thinking, an assessment of reality, and a pinch of positivity are helpful.
  • Observe people who are very different from you, accept them and learn from them. Multiculturalism is one trait especially valued these days and is inherent in those who interact with people extensively and effectively.
  • Be open to experimentation. It’s worth observing yourself beforehand, identifying your usual ways of thinking and behaving, and then allowing yourself to try other formats in a safe environment.
  • Learn how to conduct “small talk. To do this, you can gather a list of appropriate topics, prepare talking points and rehearse them (if you need to). This way, you can support any conversation within a limited time.
  • Develop practical communication skills. For some, it’s about learning to speak more, louder, and more clearly; for others, it’s about learning to listen and accept another’s position.




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