The Dangers of Perfectionism — and 5 Ways to Overcome It.

  • Self-oriented perfectionism: Excessively high personal expectations
  • Socially prescribed perfectionism: Excessively high social expectations
  • Other-oriented perfectionism: Excessively high expectations of others
  • Excellence-seeking perfectionism: A fixation with — and demand for — excessively high expectations to be met
  • Failure-avoiding perfectionism: An obsession with — and aversion to — failure
  • Do I need to take a break and come back to this with a fresh set of eyes?
  • Am I striving for progress or perfection?
  • Are my expectations realistic?
  • Will the extra effort make a meaningful difference here?
  • Is this good enough?
  • Everybody makes mistakes.
  • No one is perfect.
  • I’m trying my best, and that’s enough.
  • I can tackle this little by little and one step at a time.
  • What are the beliefs that are driving this behavior?
  • When did it start?
  • What do I know to be true?
  • How does this thought make me feel?
  • Is the opposite of the thought more likely?
  • Do I have the courage to show up?
  • Do I have the willingness to let life unfold?
  • Can I find comfort in not knowing?

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